Monday, June 17, 2013

The Art of Connecting

Last week, I attended a two-hour presentation entitled "The Art of Connecting with Clients and Colleagues." The talk was presented by Tim Wilkinson, Head of Professional Development at ING Investment Management. The talk focused on helping financial advisors build trust and connect with their clients. At the beginning of his talk, Tim asked us to participate in the following exercise. I encourage you to try this exercise with some of your colleagues or friends:
  1. Take out an 8 1/2" X 11" sheet of paper and fold it in half. Then close your eyes.
  2. Tear the right corner.
  3. Fold the paper in half.
  4. Tear the left corner.
  5. Tear the bottom corner.
  6. Fold the paper in half.
  7. Tear the bottom corner. 
Nobody is allowed to ask any questions during this exercise. It's important to have your eyes closed until after you complete Step 7. Ask everyone to unfold their sheets of paper and open their eyes. You will notice that even though everyone received the exact same instructions, everyone's sheet of paper will not look like anyone else's. The purpose of this exercise was to demonstrate how different perspectives result in different outcomes. 

Then Tim introduced us to the DISC methodology which I first learned about back in 2003. DISC is a behavioral model based on the work of William Moulton Marston, PhD that examines the behavior of individuals in their environment. Behavioral characteristics are grouped into four major "personality styles." All individuals exhibit characteristics of all four styles, but will tend to exhibit the characteristics of one particular style most often. These four styles are:
  • Dominance: High "D" people are described as very active in dealing with problems and challenges. They tend to be forceful, driven, determined, ambitious and pioneering. 
  • Influence: High "I" people are described as influential, convincing, magnetic, enthusiastic, persuasive, warm, demonstrative, trusting and optimistic. 
  • Steadiness: High "S" people are described as calm, relaxed, patient, predictable, deliberate, stable and consistent.   
  • Compliance: High "C" people are described as careful, cautious, neat, systematic, diplomatic, accurate and tactful.  
D people ask: "What are we going to do?" They trust competence. 
I people ask: "Who is part of the team?" They trust openness. 
S people ask: "How are we going to get this done?" They trust kindness. 
C people ask: "Why do we need to do this?" They trust expertise. 

In order to identify each of our own personal behavioral styles, Tim asked all of us to come up to the front of the room. The first question he asked us was, "Do you consider yourself more fast-paced and outspoken or more cautious and reflective?" People who consider themselves more fast-paced and outspoken stood at the front of the room while the more cautious and reflective people stood at the back of the room. The second question he asked us was, "Do you consider yourself more questioning and skeptical or accepting and warm?" People who consider themselves more questioning and skeptical stood on the left-hand side of the room while the accepting and warm people stood on the right-hand side of the room. Tim told us that if you consider yourself fast-paced, outspoken, questioning and skeptical, you are a D person. I people are fast-paced, outspoken, accepting and warm. S people are cautious, reflective, accepting and warm. C people are cautious, reflective, questioning and skeptical

When I took the DISC assessment in 2003, 2005 and 2012, I learned that I am primarily a S person, but I also have many C traits. When I read the description of Steadiness, I agreed it sounded a lot like me. I value relationships, sincerity and dependability. I tend to be cautious, careful, accommodating, soft-spoken and humble. In the work environment, I tend to perform in a consistent and predictable manner. I'm good at creating a stable, harmonious work environment.

At Morgan Stanley, I work on a team with six other financial advisors. Two of the financial advisors on our team were unable to attend the presentation, but I'm pretty sure that one of the senior financial advisors who was not at the presentation has an I behavioral style (I'll call him "I"). Among the people who attended the presentation, one person on our team has a dominant behavioral style (I'll call him "D"), another person displays the compliance behavioral style (I'll call her "C"), and two other financial advisors on my team have the steadiness behavioral style (I'll call them S1 and S2). Most people probably think that successful financial advisors have either the D (dominant) or I (influencing) behavioral style, but the truth is, you can become a successful financial advisor no matter what your behavioral style is. You don't even have to be an extrovert to be successful at sales. According to Daniel Pink, author of Drive and To Sell is Human, the most successful salespeople are not extroverts, but instead tend to be ambiverts. Source: http://www.danpink.com/2013/01/why-it-pays-to-be-an-ambivert-and-why-you-probably-are-one

What I enjoyed most about the presentation was learning more about my coworkers' behavioral styles. Now, I have a better understanding of what their priorities are as well as their pain points. For example, on our team, Financial Advisor "D" (Dominance) values results, action and competency. He detests wasted time, small talk, indecisiveness, and challenges to his authority. Financial Advisor "I" (Influencing) values enthusiasm, action and relationships. He dislikes dry or dull analysis, cold or detached people, negativity and pessimism. Financial Advisors "S1" and "S2" value sincerity, relationships and dependability. They are bothered by pushy people, sudden change and conflict. Financial Advisor "C" (Compliance) values quality, competency and dependability. She doesn't like emotional or illogical people, personal questions and pressure. 

According to a free online DISC assessment I found online, I am a blend between S (51%),  C (42%) and I (7%). When I took the test, I received the following description of my behavioral style: "You are tenacious and determined to follow a course of action - to achieve objectives. You are a clear thinker. You have an inner need to be objective and analytical. You like to pursue a definite course of action. You respond to logic rather than emotion. You are likely to be particularly good at handling challenging technical assignments." Even if you're not in sales, I think it's important to identify your behavioral style as well as the behavioral styles of the people you interact with on a regular basis. This includes your boss, your coworkers, your clients, your spouse or significant other, your children, your relatives and your friends. Learning more about yourself and the important people in your life will help you develop better connections with them. I believe that knowing how to form strong connections with others is one of the most worthwhile goals you can pursue in life. To learn more about your behavioral style, click on DISC assessment

Monday, June 10, 2013

Take Intelligent Risks



In my line of work as a Financial Advisor for Morgan Stanley, risk management is just as important as establishing return objectives. Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha explain how we tend to associate risk "with things like losing money in the stock market or riding a motorcycle without a helmet" (do you know it's legal to ride a motorcycle without a helmet in Hawaii?). But risk encompasses every aspect of our lives. Risk has played a major role in my career as well as my personal life and even my son's life. 

As my son, Daniel, prepares to embark on his last year in high school, his college decision is fraught with risk. Daniel has a strong interest in graphic design, but he's struggling with the choice between attending a traditional four-year university or an art school. Obviously, attending a traditional four-year college will give him more options in case he decides not to major in graphic design, but the graphic design program at an art school will most likely offer more of the type of classes he's interested in taking.  

Daniel tends to be a good test taker and scored over 2100 on the SAT, including a perfect score of 800 on the Critical Reading section of the test. Unfortunately, his high school GPA is 3.40, which means he probably won't gain admission to any of the University of California schools. After many hours of exhaustive research, I created a list of five schools that might be a good fit for him:

  1. Chapman University
  2. University of the Pacific
  3. California Polytechnic State University, San Luis Obispo
  4. California Polytechnic State University, Pomona
  5. Chico State University
Daniel also wants to add Whitman College and Willamette University to my list. 

Daniel prefers to attend a small school. That is why Chapman University, University of the Pacific, Whitman College and Willamette University appeal to him. Unfortunately, these schools are very expensive with tuition in the $36,000 to $40,000 range. The other schools on his list are public schools so the tuition is reasonably affordable (in the $6,000 to $8,000 range), but they are fairly large schools with a student population ranging from 15,000 to 25,000 students. Choosing the right college will involve taking intelligent risks for Daniel. If he decides to attend a small private school, he will be burdened with a hefty student loan (unless he receives a generous scholarship). Will attending a pricy, private college pay off in terms of helping him land a job as a graphic designer when he graduates? If he attends a public university in California, will he feel "lost" in a large student environment? These are not easy questions to answer.

I'm glad Daniel is not graduating from college this year. I hope the job market for college graduates improves by 2018. My heart goes out to the 2013 class of college graduates. According to a study conducted by the Center for College Affordability and Productivity, "about 48 percent of employed U.S. college graduates are in jobs that the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) suggests requires less than a four-year college education. Eleven percent of employed college graduates are in occupations requiring more than a high-school diploma but less than a bachelor’s, and 37 percent are in occupations requiring no more than a high-school diploma." The competition for jobs is particularly fierce because there are so many highly-qualified applicants, but only a few good job opportunities. If you have talents in math or science, you can choose a more established route to success such as pursuing a career opportunity in one of the STEM (science, technology, engineering, and medicine) professions. But if you didn't major in one of the STEM disciplines and are willing to intelligently take on risk, you may discover opportunities others miss.

In the visual summary of the book, The Start-Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career, Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha wrote, "Every possible career move contains risk. If you don't have to seriously think about the risk involved in a career opportunity, it's probably not the breakout opportunity you're looking for." Here are some of my favorite tips from Hoffman and Casnocha on how to think about the risks associated with opportunities:

  • If you can tolerate the WORST-CASE OUTCOME, be open to it.
  • If the worst-case outcome means death, homelessness, or being permanently unemployed, AVOID IT.
  • DON'T CONFLATE UNCERTAINTY WITH RISK. There will always be unknowns. This doesn't mean it's risky. 
  • You can never fully predict how or when ILL FORTUNE will strike. Instead of placing faith in your ability to anticipate all that could go wrong, BUILD UP RESILIENCE to unimaginable blowup. 
  • Achieve stability by introducing low levels of volatility -- introduce SMALL RISKS ON A REGULAR BASIS.
  • Those who REGULARLY DEAL WITH SMALL RISKS will never starve. They will never be ENGULFED BY THE BIG RISKS. 
My very first sales job was with Metropolitan Life in Aiea, Hawaii. Working in sales was a huge risk for me, but I knew that if I failed, I could always try something else. Fortunately, I did very well during my first year in the business. I was one of the top ten life insurance agents in the San Francisco Bay region, which included Northern California, Oregon, Washington, Alaska, and Hawaii. 

When I decided to move from insurance to investments by working for Merrill Lynch, the worst-case outcome was not passing the six-hour Series 7 examination. Individuals who want to sell any type of securities must take the Series 7 examination (formally known as the General Securities Representative Examination). At most brokerage firms, individuals who wish to sell securities are given only one chance to pass the Series 7 exam. Failure to pass the exam results in immediate job termination. But since I had studied for two months prior to taking the exam, I was confident I would pass. If I didn't pass, I knew I could always  go back to selling insurance or try to take the exam again at a different brokerage firm. 

Hoffman and Casnocha's advice, "Achieve stability by introducing low levels of volatility -- introduce small risks on a regular basis" really resonated with me. Many of our clients at Morgan Stanley invest a portion of their assets in the iShares MSCI USA Minimum Volatility Exchange Traded Fund (USMV). "Exchange traded funds (ETFs) that hold low-volatility stocks have a record of posting smaller swings than the broader market. These stocks also tend to have solid earning profiles and pay out substantial dividends. These types of funds aren't designed to beat indexes like the Standard and Poor's 500-stock index or the Dow, but instead limit price swings. But recently, both the PowerShares Standard and Poor's 500 Low Volatility ETF and the iShares MSCI USA Minimum Volatility ETF rose more than 9% versus a 7.1% increase in the blue chips." Source: Low-Volatility ETFs Draw Strong Flows Between DJIA Milestones

The concept of low or minimum volatility can also be applied to one's career as well as personal life. For example, if you're thinking about becoming an entrepreneur, before you quit your day job, try out your new career on a part-time basis at night and on the weekends. After you earn enough money from your part-time work to support yourself and your family, then you can quit your day-time job. 

Before you decide to marry someone, make sure you go away with him or her on an extended trip for at least a week or better yet, two weeks. The cohabitation question is tricky. Some of my friends lived with each other before they got married and they're still happily married, but I also have friends who lived with a significant other for a year or two and their relationship did not result in marriage. I think if you view cohabitation as an intentional step toward marriage, rather than as a test for marital compatibility, cohabitation could work. 

Another way to introduce small risks into your life is by taking classes outside of your field of study. Imagine how boring computer typography would be if Steve Jobs had not studied calligraphy class while he was at Reed College! 

As a Financial Advisor for Morgan Stanley, I spend most of my day engaged in prospecting and sales activities, but I'm also interested in learning more about social media marketing. In order to augment my self-taught skills in this area, I plan to take the following social media classes through the Outreach College program at the University of Hawaii at Manoa this summer: 

  • Introduction to Social Media
  • Search Engine Optimization: Introduction to Search Marketing
  • Introduction to Communication Skills via Social Media I
  • Introduction to WordPress
  • Advanced Search Engine Optimization
  • Networking Your Business on Twitter
  • Social Media Marketing: Developing an Effective Strategy
  • Intermediate WordPress
  • Practical WordPress: Beyond the Basics
  • Writing for the Web
During my free time, I read articles online and books about social media.  

As you go about your day, try to find ways to introduce small risks into your life. If you fail, it won't be the end of the world and who knows? The small risk you choose to embrace today could lead to a major breakout opportunity tomorrow. 

Monday, June 3, 2013

It Takes a Network

In my May 27, 2013 blog posting, I wrote about the book, The Start-Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career by Reid Hoffman, co-founder and Chairman of LinkedIn, and Ben Casnocha, an entrepreneur and author. Here is a link to the visual summary of the book. Last week, I wrote about the two Es (Experimentation and Element). Today's blog posting will focus on the importance of creating a network, which Hoffman and Casnocha describe in Chapter 4 of their book. Here are some of my favorite principles from Chapter 4: 
  • Relationships matter to your career no matter the organization or your level of seniority because, ultimately, EVERY JOB BOILS DOWN TO INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE. 
  • People control RESOURCES, OPPORTUNITIES, INFORMATION and the like.
  • And THE PEOPLE YOU SPEND TIME WITH shape the person you are today and the person you aspire to be tomorrow.
  • Relationships are like any living thing. . . If they're not getting STRONGER, they're getting WEAKER
One of my favorite social media sites is LinkedIn. Unlike Facebook, Twitter, and Google+, almost everyone I know has a LinkedIn profile because it's a powerful way to reinforce and form new connections. LinkedIn revealed new job opportunities and helped me reconnect with former colleagues from all over the U.S. I also enjoy being able to serve as a resource for people interested in my line of work. Last week, a woman who used to belong to the Fightin' 49ers Toastmasters Club in San Francisco, reached out to me for advice about becoming a financial advisor. Even though she was a member of our club for a short time, I remembered who she was and I spent an hour with her on the phone. I hope my advice will steer her in the right direction. LinkedIn is also a great way to feature recommendations you receive from current and former managers and colleagues. Here's a valuable tip I learned from a former manager: Provide a link to your LinkedIn profile at the top of your resume. This will allow hiring managers to view recommendations you have received.  

Last month, I heard a talk given by Carla A. Harris, a managing director for Morgan Stanley. In her talk, she discussed the importance of having an adviser, a mentor, and a sponsor. In Chapter 5 of her book,  Expect to Win: 10 Proven Strategies for Thriving  in the Workplace, she explained the difference between an adviser, a mentor, and a sponsor:
  • Adviser - Someone who can answer your discrete career questions, those that may be isolated questions pertaining to your career but are not necessarily in context of your broader career goals.
  • Mentor - Someone who can answer your discrete career questions and who can give you specific tailored career advice. You can tell them "the good, the bad, and the ugly" about your career and you can trust their feedback will be helpful to your career progression.
  • Sponsor - Someone who will use their internal political and social capital to move your career forward within an organization.
Throughout my working life, I've had several advisers, mentors, and sponsors. Many of my advisers are also personal friends of mine. Most of my mentors are managers I met at firms where I worked. Some of the best careers I've had came about as a result of my connections with powerful sponsors. 

When I was younger, I believed that the job duties of a particular position mattered a lot more than the people I had to work with inside the organization. Boy, was I wrong! Later, I discovered the importance of corporate culture and the people factor. Some people flourish in a smaller corporate environment where employees are treated as family members. I had that experience when I worked for Howard Tours, Inc., a tour operator company, and Lumetra, a nonprofit healthcare consulting firm. 

Other people thrive working for a much larger corporation. I have been fortunate to have worked for small and large corporations. In the book, Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap. . . And Others Don't by Jim Collins, Wells Fargo is listed as one of the great companies. I spent four years at Wells Fargo and I have to agree with Collins. It's a great company to work for, and if I had not decided to switch from financial services to healthcare, I would probably still be working for Wells Fargo. In 2012, I returned to financial services and I currently work as a Financial Advisor for Morgan Stanley. 

The people you work with can also have a huge impact on career satisfaction. Over the years, I've worked with a tremendous number of people whom I deeply admire. Many of those individuals have become my friends. Even when I worked for very large corporations, I found ways to form friendships with people within and outside of my department. According to a Gallup Organization study, having a best friend at work is one of the 12 traits of highly productive work groups. In almost every job I've held, I had a best friend at work. My best friend at work was someone I could count on for advice because I trusted his or her judgment. We looked out for each other and helped each other become aware of new opportunities. 

Don't underestimate the power of weak ties and acquaintances. According to Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha, "acquaintances usually introduce diversity to your network. They tend to hail from different social circles or industries and so they can be useful to find opportunities or intelligence outside your inner circle." To learn more about the importance of weak ties, I recommend reading Mark Granovetter's study, The Strength of Weak Ties: A Network Theory Revisited. According to Granovetter, the lack of weak ties deprives us of valuable information. “This deprivation will not only insulate them from the latest ideas and fashions but may put them in a disadvantaged position in the labor market where advancement can depend on knowing about appropriate job openings at just the right time. Furthermore, such individuals may be difficult to organize or integrate into political movements of any kind since membership in movements or goal oriented organizations typically results from being recruited by friends. While members of one or two cliques maybe efficiently recruited, the problem is, without weak ties, any momentum generated this way does not spread beyond the clique.”

One of the reasons why I love social network sites such as Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, and Twitter is because these sites allow me to create hundreds of weak ties. In our new social economy, those with the most ties (strong and weak) have a distinct advantage over those with the least ties. As Granovetter describes in his paper, weak ties are critical to getting work, gaining access to information, and organizing. Those who are unwilling or unable to establish, and leverage weak ties will struggle to survive in our new social economy. 

According to Hoffman and Casnocha, "the people you spend time with shape the person you are today and the person you aspire to be tomorrow." Have you ever conducted a "friends audit?" When I was younger, I became friends with anyone who wanted to become my friend. But as you can imagine, letting other people choose me rather than making friendship choices on my own is not a sustainable friendship model for the rest of your life. According to Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary anthropology at Oxford and the author of How Many Friends Does One Person Need? Dunbar’s Number and Other Evolutionary Quirks, most of us can maintain only around 150 friendships. Anthony Venn-Brown, a professional coach, wrote about a friends audit. If you think you have too many friends, here are some tips from Venn-Brown on conducting a friends audit:
  1. List the 10 most important things YOU value about friendship. Ask yourself what type of friends you want. 
  2. Place this list in order of priority with the most important at the top down to the least important being number 10.
  3. Write a list of all the people in your life you classify as friends.
  4. Give each person a tick if s/he matches your values.
  5. Delete the ones with the least ticks from your phone and address book.
  6. If they contact you, they may still be meant to be in your life. You then choose whether to reinstate them or not. Some people need lots of support. You choose if you want to give that support because you want to -- not because you feel obligated. It could be your way of being a giving person.
  7. You have now created a world of like-minded people who are in harmony with your values and created space for the right people to come in.
Every friend in my life possesses values I admire. That is why they are in my life. When I was younger, I became friends with people more from a default position. For example, when I was in first grade, I became friends with a little girl named Heidi. Unfortunately, Heidi didn't like school (except for recess) and was always encouraging me not to do my homework so I could spend more time playing with her. My grades started to slip which really bothered me as well as my parents. I didn't want to end my friendship with Heidi because she was my only friend in first grade, but my parents forced me to break off my relationship with her. 

When I moved to Hawaii, I discovered who my "real" friends were. Your "real" friends choose to stay in contact with you even if you move thousands of miles away. Having said that, relationships are a two-way street. I try to stay in touch with the people I care about even if I only have time for a weekly phone call or email rather than wait for the other person to reach out to me. Since I'm an avid reader, whenever I come across an article that might interest friends I know, I email the articles to my friends. On Facebook, Google+, LinkedIn, and Twitter, I like to post interesting articles I find so that even people who don't know me can benefit from the information I'm sharing. I'm a strong believer in giving back to the community I live in, which includes not just the state and country where I live, but the entire world. 

Monday, May 27, 2013

Charting a Successful Career Path

A few months ago, I stumbled across a visual summary of the book, The Start-Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career by Reid Hoffman, Co-founder and Chairman of LinkedIn, and Ben Casnocha, an entrepreneur and author. The book is chock full of simple, but insightful principles you can apply to your career and your life. In this blog posting, I'll cover just a few snippets from Chapter 2: Develop a Competitive Advantage and Chapter 3: Plan to Adapt (in future blog postings, I'll discuss other tips from the book):
  • In a world where a million people can do your job. . . CHART A CAREER PATH that sets you apart from other professionals.
  • Popular career planning advice says you should decide where you want to be in 10 years and then develop a plan for getting there. Popular career planning advice says you should find your passion and then pursue it. These philosophies have serious strengths, but also huge drawbacks. 
  • They presume a static world. In fact, you change, the competition changes, and the world changes. 
  • They presume that fixed, accurate self-knowledge can be easily attained through introspection. In fact, your identity is not found through introspection but rather emerges through EXPERIMENTATION
Creating a PATH and following your PASSION are what I call the two "Ps" in career planning. So many career books talk about these two "Ps" ad nauseam. Charting a career path is great if you know exactly what you want to do with your life, but let's face it. While many brand new college graduates can tell you what they're passionate about, I argue that most of them don't have a clue about how to chart their career path. The exception, of course, are young people who head straight to law school or medical school right after graduating from college. For the rest of us, I propose that instead of focusing so much on charting a path and following your passion, be willing to EXPERIMENT and find your ELEMENT. This is what I call the two "Es." I believe the same concept applies to your company's brand. Rather than sticking to the "this is the way we've always done it" path, be willing to experiment with your brand and discover what its true element is.  

A few weeks ago, I heard a talk given by Carla A. Harris, a managing director for Morgan Stanley. In her talk, she discussed the importance of constructing your own career agenda, which is another way of talking about a career path. In Chapter 2 of her book,  Expect to Win: 10 Proven Strategies for Thriving  in the Workplace, she wrote: "One of the most important things that the real you can do is to construct your own career agenda. This is important because you are the one that has to live with the triumphs and the disappointments. Only you really know what matters to you in terms of time, money, and the pace at which your career progresses, and only you know what sacrifices and trade-offs you are prepared to make to achieve success. Part of being the architect of your own agenda is understanding what success means to you."

Early in her life, Carla Harris made the decision that financial services was the industry she wanted to pursue a career in, and I know other people who knew what they wanted to do even before they graduated from college. Knowing ahead of time exactly which field you want to be in and what type of work you want to do will certainly make your life a lot easier, but I believe there's value in pursuing the experimental route, which was the path I chose throughout most of my work life. As Hoffman and Casnocha explain in their book, The Start-Up of You, "you change, the competition changes, and the world changes." I know I have changed a lot since I graduated from college, and so has my world. Over the years, I have discovered who I am and what I enjoy doing through constant experimentation. I believe experimentation can be an alternate route to charting a successful career path.

Let me take you on a whirlwind time travel tour of my work life from my post-college years up until now. I majored in English at Indiana University because I knew I wanted to be a writer. I loved writing ever since I wrote my first story when I was six years old. Writing is what I've always wanted to do; in some ways it's what I've always known I was meant to do. But after I graduated from college, I had absolutely no idea how to go about find a writing job. I also had no idea where I wanted to live, but I could tell you right off the bat that I did not want to spend the rest of my life in the Midwest where I grew up. So when a guy I became friends with in college invited me to move to Hawaii with him, I thought to myself, "Why not?" At the time, it sounded like a really fun place to live and I've always loved the sun, water and sand. I thought that after I arrived in Hawaii I would figure out how to find a writing job. After all, I was only 22 years old with the rest of my life ahead of me. 

My initial foray into the financial services industry began while I was browsing through the classifieds and spotted an advertisement for a sales representative position at Metropolitan Life. It wasn't a writing job, but I thought that perhaps it might lead to a writing job someday. After all, an important component of writing is being able to sell your thoughts and ideas to readers. So I applied for the position, passed the LIMRA personality screening test, and landed the job. My friends back on the Mainland warned me not to accept the job because sales is a tough way to earn a living, but I've always been the sort of person who thrives on new challenges and I viewed my job with Metropolitan Life as my first sales experiment. 

At Metropolitan Life, my target audience consisted of military families. The office was located near a major military base, and several of the employees in the company used to serve in the military, including the branch manager. When I was hired, I was the only person without a military background, but that didn't bother me. I was determined to succeed. I worked twelve hours a day from 9 AM until 9 PM, and I also met with prospects on Saturday mornings. Needless to say, I didn't have much of a social life, but eventually, my hard work paid off. After my first six months in the business, I was ranked among the top ten life insurance agents in the San Francisco Bay area, which included Northern California, Oregon, Washington, Alaska, and Hawaii. Among the top ten agents, I was the youngest sales representative.

What I enjoyed most about my job at Metropolitan Life was writing sales letters. Long before I decided to attend graduate business school, I already had a passion for writing, marketing, and communications. I loved the challenge of creating messages and content to drive sales. Back in the mid 80s' the life insurance industry was not heavily regulated, and I was given free license to create my own sales letters. The only approval that was required was obtaining a sign-off from my branch manager. Based on my research and knowledge of the military marketplace, I knew that a simple, but creative approach would most likely appeal to my target audience. So I created a clever one-page letter called "A Tale of Two Sergeants." I drew a picture of two Sergeants (Sergeant Penny and Sergeant Pity) and glued a penny right on top of the face of Sergeant Penny. In the letter, I described how Sergeant Penny was better able to provide for his family when he passed away because he was willing to set aside hundreds of pennies every day to buy life insurance. Like many investors today, Sergeant Pity lived for the present and didn't think about the future. Ten years later, when he passed away unexpectedly, his family had to struggle to make ends meet. The Sergeant Penny and Sergeant Pity direct mail campaign was a huge success and that letter helped me get my foot in the door with many qualified prospects. Several of those appointments resulted in new life insurance business. It just goes to show how powerful a creative storytelling idea is! To this day, I still enjoy experimenting with different sales letters to see which ones are the most successful.  

By the time, I decided I was ready to switch from selling life insurance to selling a more diverse array of financial products, I felt that my career path in financial sales was set in stone. While I was flipping through a free weekly publication I found in downtown Honolulu, I came across an advertisement for a complimentary financial planning seminar at Merrill Lynch. Even though I wasn't in the market to hire a financial consultant, I thought attending the seminar would help me find out if there were any job openings at Merrill Lynch. After the talk concluded, I spoke to the Merrill Lynch financial consultant, explained my background, and my career aspirations. He was impressed by my sales achievements at Metropolitan Life and mentioned to me that the investment team he worked for (the Strada/McRoberts team) was looking for someone to help them bring in new business. A few days later, I interviewed with the senior partners on the team and was offered the job of business financial specialist. I considered my first job with Merrill Lynch as my brokerage experiment. 

In the brokerage world, everyone must submit their correspondence to the compliance department in New York for pre-approval. Back then, it took a few weeks to receive approval (this was long before email became popular) and very little creativity was permitted. My direct mail campaigns at Merrill Lynch helped me set up appointments with business owners, but the lead time was very long due to the lengthy compliance process. So I decided to try out cold calling as an experiment. I love talking to my friends on the phone so I just pretended that the strangers I was calling were long-lost friends. Since there was no Do Not Call List and I loved talking on the phone, cold calling helped me bring in many new accounts. In the office, I quickly became known as the cold calling queen because I was really good at "dialing for dollars."  

As a Business Financial Specialist for Merrill Lynch, I focused on developing and executing direct marketing strategies targeting small and mid-sized business owners. I enjoyed researching the small business marketplace and learning all about the challenges business owners face as well as the key business trends within the local community. Based on my research, I created a portfolio of business solutions. One of the most successful business products I sold was Merrill Lynch's Working Capital Management Account (WCMA). It was a great way to align the needs of the business owner with Merrill Lynch's brand positioning. Opening a WCMA with a client also led to many successful cross-sells as well as referrals. The work environment at Merrill Lynch was dynamic and fast-paced, but I thrive in that kind of environment because every day brings new challenges and opportunities. I also enjoyed working collaboratively in a high-performance team environment where everyone felt free to share their best thinking with each other. 

After spending three years with Merrill Lynch, I decided to move from the sales side of the business to the investment recommendation side. Most financial consultants do not have the luxury of specializing in just one aspect of the business. Instead, they're expected to do it all -- prospect, set up appointments, conduct money manager research, review client portfolios, make suitable investment recommendations, and service their clients. When an executive recruiter notified me about a career opportunity at TIAA-CREF in San Francisco where I could focus on giving investment advice to university professors and administrators, I decided it might be fun to just focus on one aspect of the business. I also liked the idea of traveling all over the West Coast to meet with professors and administrators. 

When I first started working for TIAA-CREF, I enjoyed having an expense account, racking up thousands of frequent flier miles, and staying at four and five-star hotels. I also enjoyed giving investment advice and recommendations to college professors and administrators. This audience was quite different from the military families I used to visit back in the '80s, but I know how to interact well with people from all walks of life. Since my job involved talking to as many as 20 to 25 professors in one day, I quickly learned how to deliver concise, relevant and insightful recommendations about each client's portfolio. My life at TIAA-CREF changed abruptly in 1991 after I became engaged to the man who eventually became my husband.

We realized that if we wanted to start a family someday, being away from home five days a week was not ideal. During our honeymoon in Europe, I fantasized about what it would be like to work in the travel industry. I will admit that the travel benefits sounded very enticing to me. Moving from financial services to the travel industry was a daring experiment for me, but fortunately, it wasn't a huge financial gamble since my husband earned a good living. A few months after we returned home from our honeymoon, I left TIAA-CREF and enrolled at Echols International Travel School, the most highly regarded travel school in San Francisco. 

For the next fours years, I worked in the travel industry and had a great time. Even though my position did not involve traveling for business, I traveled vicariously by learning more about international destinations and writing marketing materials to promote the company's tours. Howard Tours, Inc. specialized in offering tours to Rotary Club members. I joined a local Rotary Club in order to learn more about how to design marketing strategies for this audience. As the firm's Tour Administrator, I was in charge of developing the company's direct marketing strategies. Later, when I joined California Pacific Tours, an inbound tour operator, I developed expertise in designing marketing strategies targeting travel agents and Asian tourists interested in visiting California. Unfortunately, I was forced to leave the travel industry in 1996 due to pregnancy complications. Becoming a mother for the first time was definitely the most challenging experiment of my life! Fortunately, my son was born healthy. When I was a child, both of my parents worked full-time, so my siblings and I were raised primarily by strangers. I wanted my son to have a different experience growing up so I took a few years off from work to raise him at home. When he turned two, I started A Child's World, a home-based preschool for children between the ages of two and four. I created my own brochure and direct mail campaign to promote my school. It was a huge success and in less than a year, I enrolled twelve children (including my son) and I hired a full-time Assistant Teacher. 

In March 2000, I returned to Honolulu to attend a friend's wedding. Back then, I had no idea how my world would change after that wedding trip. While I was in Honolulu for a few days, I decided to visit some of the people I used to work for on the Strada/McRoberts team. I learned that they had recently moved from Merrill Lynch to Morgan Stanley so I visited them in their new offices. I also learned that after I had left the team, they had hired another financial consultant to take my place, but by March 2000, he no longer worked for the firm. Because of my successful experience working for the Strada/McRoberts team when they were at Merrill Lynch, one of the senior partners asked me if I would consider working for them again in Honolulu. Unlike my decision to work in the travel industry, this was a huge gamble for me because it involved moving my family thousands of miles away from Northern California to Hawaii. However, the timing was good. My husband had just sold his business so he was in between jobs and our son had just graduated from my preschool. However, since my husband had never lived in Hawaii, he reluctantly agreed to sign up for our three-year "Hawaii experiment." I made an agreement with him that if he didn't like living in Hawaii after three years, we would move back to Northern California. To make a long story short, my husband was unable to find a satisfying job and never got used to living in Hawaii, so we moved back to Northern California in 2003. 

I knew I still wanted to work in the financial services business, but this time around, I wanted to experience what it would be like to work for a bank. I really enjoyed working for Wells Fargo. During my four years there, I earned the maximum bonus award for my project management and marketing accomplishments. Being able to earn this award while working on my Master's degree in Marketing was incredibly challenging and involved many 12-hour days, but I was determined to excel at my job and in school. My graduate school experiment was a success. I graduated from Golden Gate University with a 3.93 GPA and I also received a nice bonus at work while I was working on my Master's degree. What I loved most about Wells Fargo was its collaborative, team-based culture. I really enjoyed interacting with everyone in my department and team members from other departments across the nation. One of the most challenging, but also most rewarding initiatives I worked on was creating and implementing the first national PCS (Private Client Services) Wealth Management Conference. I also enjoyed working on setting up the National Sales Advisory Desk for Wells Fargo PCS.  

Quite honestly, I would have stayed at Wells Fargo if I had not become friends with a woman named Cathy whom I met at the Fightin' 49ers Toastmasters Club in San Francisco. Joining Toastmasters and becoming friends with Cathy changed my world significantly. Cathy loved working for Lumetra, a small nonprofit healthcare consulting firm in San Francisco. She introduced me to a woman named Kamna who was the marketing communications manager at Lumetra and we really hit it off. Later, when a job opening for a Senior Marketing Communications Consultant became available, Kamna encouraged me to apply for the position. The starting pay was much higher than the salary I earned at Wells Fargo and I really liked the people I met at the company so I decided to apply for the position. I also thought it would be fun to work on strategic marketing communication plans for nursing homes, home health agencies, and hospitals in California. My weekend volunteer work at nursing homes, hospitals, and hospices provided me with unique insight into the special needs of these settings so I thought I would be a good fit for the company. A few weeks later, I landed the job and moved from the financial services industry to the healthcare field. One of the things I really enjoyed about working for Lumetra was having the opportunity to collaborate with subject matter experts, physicians, and senior leaders in creating new marketing and educational initiatives in the hospital, home health agency, and nursing home environment. 

Unfortunately, my world turned upside down when Lumetra lost the CMS (Centers for Medicare and Medicaid) government contract, which resulted in the company laying off the entire marketing communications department. From a company with 110 employees at the beginning of the year, the company shrank to 25 employees over the course of a few months. Since I had established a solid track record of accomplishments in the healthcare industry, I was able to land a job with Kaiser Permanente in Oakland, California. During my tenure with Kaiser Permanente, I earned the maximum bonus award for successful project management. 

While I enjoyed my four years in the healthcare field, there was still a part of me that missed working in financial services. So when the opportunity arose to rejoin the Strada/McRoberts team in Honolulu, I moved back to Hawaii in 2012. In order to broaden my social circles and give something back to the community, I joined a few local organizations in Honolulu. Most recently, I joined St. Francis Hospice as a patient care volunteer. I knew that I wanted to continue volunteering with the elderly after I moved to Hawaii. 

I have learned a lot about myself over the course of my various "life experiments." I believe that there is no "one size fits all" solution to charting a successful career path. While my life may have been easier if I had remained in one industry all this time, I know that working in the travel and healthcare industries broadened my perspective. Knowing that I can succeed in fields outside of financial services boosted my confidence and increased my overall value in the job marketplace. It's comforting to know that my marketing and project management skills are transferable to other industries. I never would have known that if I had not taken a chance to experiment outside of financial services.

I spent quite a bit of time discussing how important it is to experiment with your career, but there's another important component in charting a successful career path. It sounds a lot like passion, but it's not the same thing. While I enjoy sales, whenever I am given a chance to research, write, and develop new marketing materials and PowerPoint presentations, I feel like I'm in my natural element. How is being in your element different than finding your passion? In the book, Finding Your Element: How to Discover Your Talents and Passions and Transform Your Life by Sir Ken Robinson, he wrote, "Being in your element is more than doing things you're good at. To be in your element, you have to love the work too. An essential step in finding your element is to understand your talents. Helping people find what they're good at and love to do is the surest way to increase their engagement at work and promote a deeper sense of well-being and fulfillment in their lives." I would also add that just because you're passionate about something doesn't necessarily mean you have a special talent in that area. For example, I enjoy bicycling, but I'm certainly not good enough to become a professional bicyclist. 

If you already know what your career path is, good for you! You're one of the lucky ones. But if you don't, there's nothing wrong with experimenting in order to find out who you are, what you enjoy doing, and what you're good at. Figuring out the answers to those three questions will help you find your element. If you combine experimentation with being in your element, eventually you will chart a successful career path, but don't expect it to be an easy process. I agree with the advice comedian Stephen Colbert gave in his commencement address to the 2013 class of the University of Virginia: "Every generation must define itself. If you must find your own path, and we have left you no easy path, then decide now to choose the hard path that leads to the life and the world that you want." 

Monday, May 20, 2013

Acting from the Center of Your Being

One of my favorite activities is attending storytelling shows and festivals because I believe everyone has a story to tell. But no matter how good you think you are, if you want to hook people onto your ideas, you need to act from the center of your being. This requires authenticity and transparency. Don't create layers between yourself and the essence of who you are. The same goes for creating marketing content. Even if you're writing about something that is fairly technical, simplicity can cut through all the unnecessary layers. 

On the last Tuesday of almost every month, fearless storytellers regale the audience with entertaining stories from their lives at the Marsh Arts Center in Berkeley, California (http://www.tellitontuesday.org). It is one of the finest storytelling shows in the San Francisco Bay Area. Another storytelling event I recommend is Real Stories at 1515 Restaurant and Lounge in Walnut Creek, California (http://www.meetup.com/real-stories). When my son was younger, he used to attend the Bay Area Storytelling Festival (http://www.bayareastorytelling.org) with me. Now that he's a teenager, he seems ashamed to be seen in public with me! 

One of my favorite actors is Daniel Day-Lewis because in every movie he's in, he becomes the character in the story he is portraying. I saw Daniel Day-Lewis for the first time on the big screen in the 1986 movie A Room with a View where he played the effete upper-class fiancé of the main character (played by Helena Bonham Carter). During the 1980s and 90s, I continued watching movies starring him. Some of my favorites include The Unbearable Lightness of Being (1987), My Left Foot (1989), The Last of the Mohicans (1992), The Age of Innocence (1993), and Lincoln (2012).

Daniel Day-Lewis is an artist who acts from the center of his being. "He developed a reputation for his refusal to break character. For example, in The Unbearable Lightness of Being, he learned Czech and refused to break character on and off the set during the entire eight-month shooting schedule. During the filming of My Left Foot, Day-Lewis played a severely paralyzed character on and off screen. He insisted on being moved around the set in his wheelchair in order to gain insight into all aspects of Brown's life, including the embarrassments. During filming, he broke two ribs from assuming a hunched-over position in his wheelchair for so many weeks. In The Last of the Mohicans, Day-Lewis reportedly underwent rigorous weight training and learned to live off the land and forest where his character lived, camping, hunting and fishing. He even carried a long rifle at all times during filming in order to remain in character and learned how to skin animals. To prepare for The Age of Innocence, set in America's Gilded Age, Day-Lewis wore 1870s-period aristocratic clothing around New York City for two months, including top hat, cane and cape during colder periods. For his role in the movie, Lincoln, Day-Lewis read over 100 books on Lincoln." 


One of my favorite Day-Lewis quotes is: “Given the chance to enter into areas of one’s soul, of one’s experience, that can be extremely unsettling; nonetheless, there’s great joy in the exploration of that.” We're all living out our own personal stories of what it means to be a human being in this lifetime. Being able to tell your story well requires authenticity, and being able to act from the center of your being. The ultimate human challenge is being able to tap into the essence of your story and creating meaning around it.

You can choose the story you want to tell. Are you a purpose-driven entrepreneur or a fledgling small business owner? Are you a visionary business leader or a corporate yes man? Are you a talented mother or an ordinary housewife? Telling your story well gives people a reason to care about you and your ideas. The more people care about you, the more they will respond on your behalf.

Take a long, hard look at all the major events in your life. Can you wrap a story about these events or is each event an unconnected dot in the story of your life? If you can tell your story well and act from the center of your being, eventually you will find some measure of success in life. Whenever I have been brave enough to act from the very center of my being, the experience has been both unsettling, but liberating at the same time. It’s so easy to slip into the default mode of conformity, but whenever I have done that, the false sensations linger in my body like a saccharine aftertaste.

I admire Daniel Day-Lewis’s dedication to his craft. Here is a man who knows how to work from the very center of his being and by doing so, manages to slip into other people’s beings as well. How many of us have the courage to completely immerse ourselves in someone else’s world when we scarcely know how to occupy our own worlds entirely?

One of my favorite weekend activities is Ecstatic Dance at Historic Sweets Ballroom in Oakland, California. Here is their Web site: http://ecstaticdance.org. I enjoyed dancing with the paralyzed man in the wheelchair. Although he was unable to move his legs, he was able to move his arms and I marveled at his ability to use his wheelchair as an extension of his own body. If you ever have a chance to visit Oakland, California, you can watch an inspiring performance of dancers with and without disabilities (http://axisdance.org). I admired this young man's confidence to enter the world of dance unencumbered by his physical limitations. In the story of his life, he evolved beyond the story of handicap and disability to the story of grace and possibility. Which story do you want to tell about your life? Which story do you want to tell about your ideas?